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 Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away."

"Love is friendship set on fire."

"Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing.""To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia."

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more."

"Sometimes love is stronger than a man's convictions."

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness."

"Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it."

"Love stretches your heart and makes you big inside."

"Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale... Love loves; this is its nature."

  "Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other."

"Where love is, no room is too small."

"Loves makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place."

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day."

"To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven."

"A love song is just a caress set to music."

 "Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit."

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever."

"Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence."

"In the final analysis, love is the only reflection of man's worth." -"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile."

"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
A medley of extemporanea;
And love is a thing that can never go wrong;
And I am Marie of Roumania."

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."

 WHY DO PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE?..

There are a lot of people who fall in love for the wrong reasons and because of this, they can’t be in love. Being in love is a wonderful thing and some people just like the idea of it.

But in order to be in love, you have to be in love with someone. And this is where the trouble arises. Because some people love the idea of being in love so much, they end up falling in love with the first person that is a little bit nice to them. They don’t take their time to know the person. And even if the person shows signs of hurting them in the future, they ignore the signs. They are more concerned about being with someone, than being with someone who really loves and cares about them. It takes a long time to know a really good person but it only takes a short time to know a bad person. A good person is there but you just don’t notice because you are too busy looking everywhere else other than next to you. A bad person is at a far distance, all you have to do is look up and they will come over to you.

A lot of people (girls especially) are scared of being alone. Thus they always end up falling for the wrong person because their logic mind is clouded with the desire to be with someone, anybody that shows interest in them. They don’t assess the person. All they care about is that he/she doesn’t come on to strongly. They don’t care about his looks, what he does for a living, his interests and future plans. We are constantly told not to worry about these things; looks, money etc. But if you are going to commit to someone, you will have to do so knowing how, the lack of or having these things will affect your relationship in the future.

 Most relationships end because people change their minds. For example, they hook up with someone without money and they don’t have money either. It seems good at first with all the love and sex but you have to survive as well. And so when the times get tough, they pull out of the relationship. They can’t handle having no money and this leads to them to do more worrying and struggling than loving and enjoying life.

DOES LOVE REALLY EXIST??

50% of all marriages fail.

I was arguing with a non-monogamous person on this subject. He was basically a person who had sex with many different people with there partners consent and she did as well.

He tryed to tell me that this was the way to go. That non-monogamy was a solution to the problems.

I countered that non-monogamy is not a solution. Nothing will ever be a solution because true love does not exist. Every relationship seems to fail down the road no matter what type it is

He countered telling me that monogamy was unrealistic and that the fail rate and high rates of extramarital sex(cheating) proves that.

I told him that non-monogamous relationships are unrealistic because people like him who advocate such a life style want to WISH jealousy and posssesivness away.

I also told him the average human being in the modern world would have many insecurities while living such a life style.

People would have practical problems with such a lifestyle. Such is 'is he/she having better sex with them then me?' and your partner riding off into the sun with the one who has better chemistry with she/he does with you.

I pointed out many studies that have shown that those living in non-monogamous relationships tend to have much more strain and it takes much more effort to keep such a releationship together. A effort and energy i and the average american was not willing to spend. And thats not even counting the insecurities and jealousy the average joe would go through.

Thats all not even counting the risk of pregnancy and STD.

Basically it went back and forth for a while until i brought up some studies and statistics that was done which showed that those living in such lifestyles tended to have a higher fail rate then those living in monogamous relationships.

It was during all of this that i had a epiphany. That humans are stuck between being animals and something more. The animal in us wants to have more and more sex with multiple people. but the MAN in us....the thing that makes us MORE wants....no CRAVES that 'soulmate' the love and intimacy of a monogamous relationship.

I have come to the conclusion that because we have been CURSED we as humans will never know true love that LASTS. We will never be a selfless species. We will never stop warring. We will never stop hating each other. We will never understand each other.

Because we have been cursed by something. we are half animal and half something MORE.

And someone cruel up there made it so we can have a TASTE of love.BUT IT NEVER LASTS.

But TRUE love that lasts will never exist for us....because we are STUCK. We are stuck between being ape...and being MAN.

Im sorry for ranting on here....its just i've become so depressed about my love life or lack there of.

I feel that i will never find any woman and any relationship i get in life will never last.

What is your thoughts? does love truly exist? and i dont mean affection or infatuation. i mean the love that can last a life time. can two people really stay together for all there life without cheating on each other?

If not what is the solution.....because non-monogamy will never work for me...sorry im a possessive person.

and before i get any of you whining about how i dont 'own' my non-existent lover....i got news for you...i do. The way i look at it....when you enter into a monogamous relationship you are claming that person as your own and vice versa. I may 'own her' but its mutual ownership because she owns me.